一上space home，发现2008年大家都很高产，几乎有了日进斗金的感觉。痛痛快快的畅读一番。

 

言归正传，正在图书馆加班，做着机械的程序，忍不住便胡思乱想起来。忽然想起了从Vancouver回Seattle的海途中的一个小插曲。我和妈妈正津津有味的看著士兵突击，爸爸因为事先偷偷看过，只好百般无聊的四处张望。忽然饶有兴趣的说怎么老外这么好玩，爸爸长得红红黑黑的，儿子却白的很。兴致中的我胡乱的抬头顺着爸爸看的方向望去，原来一个高大的白人爸爸抱着他的4，5岁的儿子。爸爸晒着古铜色，儿子却是白人模样。我稍加解释给父亲听后。又专心致志的看片了。

 

不一会，平静的客舱有了一丝骚动，只见爸爸刚才说的那个白人大哥如疯了一般的边走边张望。从老爸身边闪过，不小心撞了我们一下，原本看着文质彬彬的他，此刻双眼布满血丝，脸色发青，犹如怒火中的野兽，似乎在一瞬间就要攻击。所有人惶恐的看着他。我虽不满于他的无礼，撞了老爸却视而不见。但心想一定发生了什么大事。几个工作人员出现，一边小心翼翼的拦住他问情况，一般安抚边上惶恐的人群。一问之下才知道，他丢了那活泼乱跑的孩子。这轮船有上下5层，最下面两层是我们停靠的汽车，成白成千的汽车，上面是客舱，有餐厅，有游戏室。乘客们都把车停在了指定的位置后来到舱中休息。这漫漫的冬夜，虽然小孩如果在舱里就一定能找到，但如果他一个人跑到了近乎零度的甲板，又更或者不小心落入了冰冷的海中。于是骚动变成了有秩序的帮忙。人们安慰他，一边互相询问是否看见一个穿着蓝色t-shirt,红色运动短裤的白人小男孩。偌大的客轮寻找一个小不点。看着干练坚强的爸爸血丝的眼中有了泪花在打滚。他在极力的自控着，极力让自己不去想最坏的结果。一边一边的寻找着每个角落，低吼着儿子的名字。

 

忽然，一个一头金发的小孩出现在了前排的一个座位上，似懂非懂的望着大人们。远远的，我们看见那父亲发现了孩子，冲上前去紧紧的抱着孩子，然后上上下下前前后后的检查一番是否受伤冻着，发现孩子完好无损，正呵呵的看著父亲，终于眼泪落了下来。

 

大家都松了一口气。妈妈对我说：这就是为什么小时候带你上街用个绳子绑着你一头我一头，就是让你跑还是跑不出我们的手掌心。

 

是啊，孩子们是父母亲的心头肉，在怎么跑也跑不出爸爸妈妈的视线和手掌心。那其实是一种幸福的感觉。

 

 

 

 

When you were a little girl, did you often think that by 30 you’d be married, maybe have one or two kids, and a nice house in the suburbs somewhere? Maybe you thought that by 30, you would hold a top position in a great company in a large city. You would be wearing sassy black outfits complete with gorgeous (but uncomfortable) high heels. Perhaps you had no dreams because it just seemed so far away.

Now, all too quickly, 30 is approaching and you feel a need to completely reevaluate your life. It’s a fact that many women are not where they want to be at this age, unless they have very few goals. That can be admirable, because people with fewer goals are not incessantly tormenting themselves. For the rest of us – why can we not just be content?

It seems that many people are married now, though a few are not. For those who remain single – it is not by choice; they are looking hard for that “right” person. On the other hand, most men are deep into their careers, while some are still trying to figure out a direction. Where are the women? Well, many women are having babies now; some are still working and some are not. Some are fortunate enough to be stay-at-home moms.

Turning 30 is an important time for women and it should not be taken lightly. This is where a decade can easily go by in a flash. All of a sudden, we’ll look up: some of us will have had a few kids, we’ll be approaching 40 or beyond, the kids are off to school, and we may find ourselves starting over again. This can be a great time for many women. Many of us will look at what we really want to be; we’ll think of things we want to do that we would never have thought of - or done – in our 20s.

Here’s the clincher though. The most troubling aspect of the 30s is it is often a time when women begin to lose their independence. It can easily happen if you are taking care of your children and not employed at least part-time. If you are not working at all, then your main goals in life have nothing to do with yourself. Many women lament that it’s really easy to not even think about the dreams they had for themselves. It’s often said it was their choice to have children and stop working, so this is their life. For the 50% of women who divorce, this can be a truly frightening notion.

For women turning 30, or who have already have turned 30: remember that we owe it to ourselves to remain always strong and independent. If you are around 30 and have not met “the one” yet, don’t stress out thinking that’s all that matters in life. Take this time to do more for yourself; learn more, travel more. Set goals and your life will fall into place. Women who are married with no kids yet, don’t feel as if you have to rush to get on the baby bandwagon and drop all your dreams. Do things in your own time and make the choices that you want to make. If you do have kids and have the opportunity to be a stay-at-home mom, don’t forget who you are or what you once dreamed of. For all women out there, don’t be afraid to dream now. If you are true to yourself and your goals, turning 30 is really not so bad!